Love

Valentine's day: the red heart balloons, flowers, heart shaped chocolate boxes, advertisements to sell perfumes, jewellery, school kids madness in giving out and counting the received valentines (so called garbage that all parents always have to buy, and dump in garbage within the first week, of course behind the kids back)...in a nutshell - the marketing hype & confused madness got me thinking. Thinking about the center of all this hustle...LOVE.

What exactly is love? is it so easily discernible? mmmm I don't think so. Love is an universal feeling - a strong universal feeling that is - that a human feels towards an object, person or some other inanimate thing. Is it true that Love can happen only once? Or there can be only one true love? This brings another question on 'true' love. Well if the feeling is not true it is not love. then why do we sometimes qualify love as 'true' love?

Now getting back to square one - is it possible that any human can love only once? To me this is totally an absurd question. Such a question arises only when we start confusing or mixing up love with marriage, life partnership etc. Meet. Fall in love. Marry. Live ever after. Yes, being true to the relationship is very important. I agree both involved in a relationship must work on mending the walls frequently so no one violates the boundaries.

Does that also mean one should not love anything or anyone else after marriage? Absolutely not. Love your favorite leader, movie star, author, friend, co-worker. Just know your boundaries. Essentially do not get mixed up with admiration, appreciation, friendship (all different manifestations of love) and love - the kind of love that involves a much higher level of intimacy than the average, normal manifestation of love.

Love, like water takes the shape of the container we pour it in. When this love is poured into the spouse it takes a completely different shape. In friendship and other containers - love fits in with multiple different shapes. Just understanding the capacity of the container would mean that we have mastered the art of unconditional love.

Oh well...I love what I love!