Familiarity and Comfort

Are familiarity and comfort synonymous? To me they look like. I do like to venture in the unknown territory, and enjoy the sense of achievement after completing a challenging something. I love exploring the brand new, unlearned avenues of knowledge. I also find comfort in the familiar.

It is like - when I take off on a drive to a completely new destination - I do get excited.But I just don't start driving before doing some basic planning. Let me think a little bit more about it.

- Know the destination.
- Plan the route.Take GPS. Still check out the maps online before starting :)
- Plan buffer time for any unexpected delays.
- Make sure got enough gas in the tank.
- Other stuff to prepare kids, yourself etc are intuitive!


So I reach, and return. Happy, excited and satisfied. Yet, when I reach the freeway I know, the exit I need to take, a complete sense of safety washes over me. And that is why I think familiarity and comfort are synonymous. Though I would never want to be in a comfort zone for ever, I would want to return to the comfort zone and familiar settings to recharge and venture out more.

Silence

Silence - can mean quite a few things. The meaning of silence is very circumstantial and subjective. Acceptance, Rejection, Aggression, Submission, Love and plain simple passive laziness... Silence does acquire a lot of shades.

Being silent and being feeling silent are two completely different things.

Being silent can be for a lot of different reasons, ranging anywhere from the list mentioned above. This sort of silence sometimes is more dangerous than a ship wreck. This drowns the person who is observing silence in a lot of different feelings such as anger, self pity, injustice and stifling anguish. This silence needs to be broken. Unless the person speaks or vents, the person is never going to feel at peace with him/herself or life.

On the other hand, feeling silent is just the opposite. The silent feeling descends on an individual or two When there is content, complacence and may be friendship, love etc. When two people understand that silence is not a void to be filled by noise, rather a vacuum devoid of noise, and cherish the moment, feels the silence - life becomes more beautiful.

Whatever it is - understanding the power of silence and trying to practice it at times, at appropriate times, can bring peace to our existence.

Pooh bear and Eeyore

Just a little difference. Being happy or being sad. Pooh bear and Eeyore - both lived in the 100 acre woods. I had always liked the silly old yellow cuddly bear. And never had any sympathy for that so tired looking sad donkey :)

I just looked at the ever present silly old yellow cuddly Pooh bear in that corner. What a beautiful symbolic reminder of happiness it is. Never once had I thought pooh bear in association with more deeper meanings of life!

Life comes in the same package for everyone. Colorful, morbid, scary, dangerous, funny, foolish, silly - whatever. Its our reaction to the life. A friend motioned her chance encounter with her co worker. Her coworker always brought sunshine. And my friend had never had an opportunity to go beyond the casual "hi - bye". Yesterday, she had a little bit more time for chitchat. And found out the coworker has a born blind 13 year old child. She didn't complain about the child or God. She had accepted the fact as it is and living her life to the fullest. She is not sad, bitter and unhappy.

And here I am complaining and shouting at my blessings almost on an everyday basis. Why? Because I am looking at life from Eeyore's perspective. Looking for a happiness that is in my mind. Not looking at the happiness that is present- right in front of me!!!!! Oh the silly old pooh bear must have had a good laugh all these years.

Well this doesn't mean the reactions are going to be tailored and always pleasant and happy. But will definitely start trying!

நினைவுகள்

வெளியே மழை.
நனைந்த இமைகள்.
கனமாய் மனது.

மழை மாலை

கரு சுமந்த மேகங்கள்

இருள் நிறைந்த அந்தி வேளை

தலை குளித்த மரம் நிறைந்த

கார் வண்ண நெடுஞ்சாலை -

கடந்து செல்ல நெடுந்தூரம்

துணையிருக்கும் மெல்லிசை

மழைகால மாலை கூட

சிலநேரம் சுகமாக ...

நினைவலையின் சாரலிலே

நனைந்தபடி மெதுவாக

நேரத்தை துரத்தாமல்

நிஜ நிழலில் ஒதுங்காமல்

சுகமான சிறு பயணம்!

இசை

எங்கோ பிறந்து
எதிலோ கலந்து
காற்றாய் நுழைந்து
பாட்டாய் கரைந்து
மனதை வருடி
இதயம் நிறைக்கும்
இசையின் வடிவம்
யாரோ அறிவார்?
காலம் வென்ற
காதல் சொல்லி
மரணம் என்ற
வலியும் சொல்லி
உறவின் அருமை
பிரிவில் சொல்லி
எல்லாம் சொல்லும்
இசையின் வலிமை
மனிதம் இருக்கும்
வரையில் இருக்கும்.

If you can -

Accept who you are
Understand your strengths
Know your weaknesses
Practice what you believe in
Fearless when it comes to truth
Agree each of us are different
Look beyond personal differences
Love yourself and never pretends
Do things to your highest level of satisfaction
Take criticism on your work positively
Ignore criticism on your genes
Just move on.
Keep going.
Don't stop for praises.
Don't ignore criticism.
Don't think about what you don't have.
Do what you can do to be beautiful from inside out.
Not the other way round.
It’s your life.
You have the right to live it.
Just don’t step on your neighbors toes :)