I strongly believe in destiny. That said, I am not the type to take the back seat and blame the driver for going in the wrong direction. I do plan my destination. Plan my route. And work on my route to reach the destination. But sometimes, though we work hard on keeping on the right track, our destination may be different from what we planned for. If I reach such a destination that I did not envision for myself, I always try to see how/what I can learn, enjoy, give or take from that destination. And I truly believe no one can take away what we do with what we have. Also what is ours will definitely be ours. We only need to look for and recognize it when it comes to us.
Why this now? I was talking to my friend this morning. She was very sad and upset over something that did not happen the way it should have happened. She had done everything she has to, follow all the rules and submitted the paperwork. Took a break, nice family vacation. And the rules changed. her papers are rejected. I understand her frustration. It is of course sad. Getting out of that frustration is easier said than done. But I just hate that "Why should it happen to me?" attitude. This self pity paves way only to more self pity and affects positive productivity.
Well it happened. First accept what happened. Then think how you can work on changing the situation. Explore other possibilities of making the situation work for you. If, after trying all avenues possible, a change seems absolutely impossible, just accept it. Life will not always give us what we want. And that is fair. if we start getting everything we want...well I am at a loss to think about the consequences to humanity. There will be no end to the outrageous atrocities in the human world. That is why we sometimes do not get what we strongly believe we deserve.
That said, my grandma used to tell me two of these Indian proverbs that roughly translated sound like these - "For every goat, God measures the length of its tail". "Even if you apply Castor oil all over and roll on the sand, only those destined to stick on you will stick on you" etc.
While I work hard to reach my destination, I am mindful of my journey, detours and deviations. If one of my paths are closed, I am sure there will be a detour. Just make sure to follow what is available and give your 100% to whatever path you choose. You will be where you have to be. The "where you have to be" and "where you want to be" might slightly differ from each other. But if you accept the have, the want will cease to exist. When want ceases to exist - life is filled with peaceful contentment.
Wednesday, May 30, 2012
Friday, May 25, 2012
Random kids stuff...
What seems an ordeal today may potentially become one of the most cherished memories as the kids grow into adulthood and cease to be kids anymore. The morning breakfast. Every morning. On the table, flanked between these two - only to avoid any big ruckus in the morning to beat the traffic with four different schedule....
The things they say, the things they fight for - my day is done at 8. The rest of the hours I just pull myself through with sheer will power. Yes, the constant hum of a chorus noise can make my chores a serious drudgery.
More recently its always the tooth affair. Older A lost the tooth before hitting the general bench mark of 6 yrs. Little A didn't yet. Though the permanent tooth are already in there, she feels God is totally completely unfair that the brother bear lost tooth earlier than her. And picks on him for it every single morning. OMG. Can't believe the things these kids say. Starting from you are bad, your school is bad...I am the best, my school is the best. Seriously who ever wanted to send these two to different school??? Not me :( but I am the one that steps in to stop HWxxx (Home War - infinite) every morning.
You try to correct or discipline one of them...Then these two enemy territories join forces together and attacks you full head on. With all possible weapons - emotional, guilt trips and yes with whatever they can get hold of. Then it is " meanie mom, don't do that to my brother" "mom, she is only little don't be mad with her"...oh well I do enjoy these secretly. the attachment, love that runs underneath the sibling rivalry. Hope they stay that way forever.
One of these days, when they are out and about chasing life as we are doing now, i will be sitting and reminiscing over and cherishing these noisy morning break fasts, only in memories.
The things they say, the things they fight for - my day is done at 8. The rest of the hours I just pull myself through with sheer will power. Yes, the constant hum of a chorus noise can make my chores a serious drudgery.
More recently its always the tooth affair. Older A lost the tooth before hitting the general bench mark of 6 yrs. Little A didn't yet. Though the permanent tooth are already in there, she feels God is totally completely unfair that the brother bear lost tooth earlier than her. And picks on him for it every single morning. OMG. Can't believe the things these kids say. Starting from you are bad, your school is bad...I am the best, my school is the best. Seriously who ever wanted to send these two to different school??? Not me :( but I am the one that steps in to stop HWxxx (Home War - infinite) every morning.
You try to correct or discipline one of them...Then these two enemy territories join forces together and attacks you full head on. With all possible weapons - emotional, guilt trips and yes with whatever they can get hold of. Then it is " meanie mom, don't do that to my brother" "mom, she is only little don't be mad with her"...oh well I do enjoy these secretly. the attachment, love that runs underneath the sibling rivalry. Hope they stay that way forever.
One of these days, when they are out and about chasing life as we are doing now, i will be sitting and reminiscing over and cherishing these noisy morning break fasts, only in memories.
Wednesday, May 23, 2012
Experiences...
Experiences enrich a person like nothing else.
I don't know why, but for whatever reason I am reminded of so many people - call it a walk down the memory lane or ghosts from the past. But I do want to thank so many people who had helped me to be what I am today. My interactions with them, their reactions, my happiness, pain and suffering through all these, has helped me evolve into a confident person and a successful professional.
In life, I had an opportunity to do what I chose to do, from childhood. Because I was given the opportunity to choose, I also had to fail in more than one occasion because I made the wrong choices. Wrong choices according to the 'normal' ambitious people. But because of the choices is only I am what I am today! The education and the situations...simply toughened me up!
I had the golden opportunity to work with extremely different personality types. Very simple, straight forward type, professional but unfriendly type, helpful, professional and "live and let live" types, extremely personable, friendly but not very professional type, very thorough, detail oriented but completely controlling type etc etc. Though many of the situations are not ideal for a work environment, each of the situations had helped me tremendously.
I have learned to be courteous, professional, detached and still friendly. My accountability and responsibility are polished. I have learned the dos and don'ts by living through the dos and don'ts.
Though I have had people to guide me through times when I needed advise, I had forgotten those exact words with which they guided me. But I do remember the situations when something happened in some way and I or some one else reacted in some way. Based on the reaction, I also remember how the focus shifted from one common goal to multiple micro objectives.
Thank you every one, for being in my life, shaping me and helping me think through and becoming a better person.
I don't know why, but for whatever reason I am reminded of so many people - call it a walk down the memory lane or ghosts from the past. But I do want to thank so many people who had helped me to be what I am today. My interactions with them, their reactions, my happiness, pain and suffering through all these, has helped me evolve into a confident person and a successful professional.
In life, I had an opportunity to do what I chose to do, from childhood. Because I was given the opportunity to choose, I also had to fail in more than one occasion because I made the wrong choices. Wrong choices according to the 'normal' ambitious people. But because of the choices is only I am what I am today! The education and the situations...simply toughened me up!
I had the golden opportunity to work with extremely different personality types. Very simple, straight forward type, professional but unfriendly type, helpful, professional and "live and let live" types, extremely personable, friendly but not very professional type, very thorough, detail oriented but completely controlling type etc etc. Though many of the situations are not ideal for a work environment, each of the situations had helped me tremendously.
I have learned to be courteous, professional, detached and still friendly. My accountability and responsibility are polished. I have learned the dos and don'ts by living through the dos and don'ts.
Though I have had people to guide me through times when I needed advise, I had forgotten those exact words with which they guided me. But I do remember the situations when something happened in some way and I or some one else reacted in some way. Based on the reaction, I also remember how the focus shifted from one common goal to multiple micro objectives.
Thank you every one, for being in my life, shaping me and helping me think through and becoming a better person.
Tuesday, May 1, 2012
Farewell...New beginnings...
Farewells are not my cup of tea. Especially when its my best friend or the best place or even old tattered, but my best loved bag. I also understand the concept of new Beginnings. If we want to have new beginnings, we must say bye to the old ones. Otherwise we are shutting ourselves our of the future. Still farewells hurt. We move forward with memories, lessons and of course more people/friends we made in our journey.
Last week was one such week filled with not one, but two painful farewells. I had to bid farewell to one of my best friends and something else I really loved. When I say I "really love" - I know it involves pain. For Love, we all know encompasses an element of pain.
One of my best friends made the big decision to move back to India for good. Going back to India is not very new...I have seem my other good friends move and felt exactly the same way as I did last week. But last week was exceptionally emotional because that was someone I really did not think will go back :( But the tides have changes and the time came for her family to leave. So we said fare thee well at the airport. Hope her new beginnings bring her joy and peace.
And then I bid another farewell, to my dear work. Well I do have some new beginnings to make soon and I am sure that will give me new experiences, new people and new paths. The road not taken is always exciting to explore. But this time I will explore it with caution and learn to maneuver with the experience I got from my previous journey.
More farewells and more new beginnings...and life continues.
Last week was one such week filled with not one, but two painful farewells. I had to bid farewell to one of my best friends and something else I really loved. When I say I "really love" - I know it involves pain. For Love, we all know encompasses an element of pain.
One of my best friends made the big decision to move back to India for good. Going back to India is not very new...I have seem my other good friends move and felt exactly the same way as I did last week. But last week was exceptionally emotional because that was someone I really did not think will go back :( But the tides have changes and the time came for her family to leave. So we said fare thee well at the airport. Hope her new beginnings bring her joy and peace.
And then I bid another farewell, to my dear work. Well I do have some new beginnings to make soon and I am sure that will give me new experiences, new people and new paths. The road not taken is always exciting to explore. But this time I will explore it with caution and learn to maneuver with the experience I got from my previous journey.
More farewells and more new beginnings...and life continues.
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